| We asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. Some of the best responses are below. Dear Carolyn: James is my sister-in-law’s partner. They’ve been together about five years. To put it nicely, James is high horse moral blowhard on a lot of things, and one is being vegan. He really has a lot to say about it. I host all the holidays for my husband’s side, and each one requires a pregame call with SIL to ensure that James will have acceptable vegan offerings. I make it happen because I love SIL. But, are you ready? I was downtown for a work meeting and went to a bar with colleagues after and there was James, at the bar, eating a bacon cheeseburger and fries. I checked the menu — all animals, no plant-based burgers. I asked the bartender if he knew that guy who just ate the burger, and he said, “James? He’s here every Monday. It’s half off burgers on Mondays.” Letting go that his moral high horse was demoted to a toy pony and the fact that it raises a lot of questions (like does SIL know?), I would really like to stop making vegan meals at all holidays if there is no need to do so. Is there any way to let James know that I know that he isn’t 100 percent vegan, and I’ll be making burgers for the next holiday? By the way, lest you think this is vegan-bashing, I am a vegetarian and have been a plant-based eater in the past. I just did it without moral lecturing. — Vegan Cover Blown | 
