I feel like a fish out of water after relocating for my wife
A reader asked for advice on how to talk to his partner about a move he now regrets.
From The Times
December 10, 2025

A reader moved from the Bay Area to the South to satisfy his partner, who wanted to be closer to family, and is now filled with regret. How can he discuss the issue without deepening his resentment?

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